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  Shirley Says . E-Newletter Issue 20 
June 2004 
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Dear Reader

It's June already! We're almost half way through 2004! Doesn't time fly? Well my May was full of good things both professionally and personally - I enjoyed my public workshops in JB (thanks to ELS) and KL (thanks to Partners) as well as in Singapore (thanks to JobsDB) as well as some in-house workshops too.

I also enjoyed the wedding of some very dear friends - Patrick and Lee Fong (aka Maggie). You can read more about that in the first section below.

June also looks like being hugely busy, with lots of in-house as well as public workshops. I'm also looking forward to doing some shopping in Shanghai when I go up there this month to speak at the 1st Annual Shanghai Secretaries' Conference, as well as conducting 2 one-day workshops there ... plus of course making many new friends ... oh, and did I mention shopping!?!

Make June a great month! See you again soon!

Shirley

In this issue
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  • Supermen and Supergirls unite!
  • Congratulations to Patrick and Maggie
  • Writing to persuade - the carrot and stick strategy!
  • Send or take or bring or fetch?
  • Last but not least ...

  • Congratulations to Patrick and Maggie
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    In June I was very proud and happy to attend the wedding of some very dear friends - Lee Fong and Patrick. What a fabulous day it was, starting with the Chinese tea ceremony at lunch time and then the fabulous wedding ceremony and dinner at the Changi Meridien. The evening was full of fun, dancing, singing, jokes, speeches, good friends, and lots of laughter. It was certainly a totally different kind of wedding, and one that will remain in the hearts and minds of everyone who was there. Congratulations to the happy bride and groom, and may you enjoy many happy years together. I'm so glad the mandarin ducks worked!! ;-)

    Writing to persuade - the carrot and stick strategy!
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    I am very pleased to bring you an article contributed by Tim North about persuasive writing. You'll find many more helpful tips like these in Tim North's much applauded range of e-books. FREE SAMPLE CHAPTERS are available, and all books come with a money-back guarantee. Check out his website now at http://www.BetterWritingSkills.com.

    Certain types of writing involve doing your utmost to persuade the reader to accept your recommendations. Business examples of persuasion include:

    • arguing for more staff
    • assuring the boss of the merits of a new project
    • convincing management to continue with a worthwhile program
    • encouraging your manager to investigate a safety hazard
    • justifying a budget increase
    • promoting your innovative business strategy
    • selling a product or service
    • supporting your position over that of others

    There's a 5-step process that I call the carrot-and-stick strategy. It can be very effective in such situations. The strategy is this: the following 5 elements should be in every attempt to persuade:

    1. A clear statement of the reader's problem.
    2. A clear statement of the consequences for the reader of not solving the problem.
    3. A clear statement of your proposed solution to the problem.
    4. A clear statement of the benefits to the reader of solving the problem.
    5. A clear request for a specific action, eg "Please sign and return this application".

    If you do any writing that involves trying to persuade your reader in any way, you will want to take a look at the rest of Tim North's 5 steps in further detail.

    The first step is discussed in detail here:

    1 The Problem

    If you want to get a sleeping teenager out of bed, simply telling him or her to get up may be only marginally effective. Pointing out that the house is on fire is likely to be far more so. Why? The first approach may be perceived as just another annoying request for compliance. The second, though, presents a problem: their problem.

    So, if I want to persuade someone to do something then the first step in the carrot-and-stick strategy is to convince him or her that they have a problem that needs to be solved.

    Little other than self-interest motivates some people; others can be paralysed by indecision and only act when compelled. No matter the situation, no matter the person, one of the best ways to put people in the mood to act is to convince them that they have a problem.

    In an unsolicited case or proposal this is especially important as the reader may be completely unaware of the existence of the problem, and it will be your job to walk them through it.

    Of course, some cases and proposals will be solicited, in which case the reader presumably already knows that there's a problem that needs solving. In such cases, you may need to spend less time explaining it to them.

    Never skip this step, though, as the reader may have forgotten the problem since you last discussed it. Alternately, she or he may be underestimating how severe it is.

    Continue reading this article on Writing to persuade »

    Send or take or bring or fetch?
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    One thing I'm often asked in my workshops is when do we use send, take, bring and fetch? If this is something that puzzles you, then read on....

    If you send your children to school in the morning, you do not go with them. If you mean that you drive them to school in the morning, you should use the word take.

    Use take when you are going to hand something to someone, eg: I must take these flowers to Mandy in hospital.

    Also use take when you are asking someone to do the delivery, eg: Please take this form to Accounts Department.

    Use bring when the person you are talking to is at Point B while you are at Point A, and you want the person to get you something, eg: When we meet tomorrow, please bring me the book you borrowed.

    If the person you are talking to is at the same point as you are, the word to use is fetch, then the person will have to go away from you to another point and return to where you are, eg: Please fetch me a cup of coffee.

    Try these simple sentences, and check the answers next month:

    1. I would like to _____ you out for dinner tonight
    2. My flight is at 7 pm today. Will you please _____ me to the airport?
    3. When I see you later, will you _____ that book you borrowed last week.
    4. I will meet you at the airport tomorrow night, and _____ you to your hotel.
    5. Please _____ your report to my e-mail address before the end of this week.
    6. I would like you to _____ me a copy of your new catalogue when it is published.
    7. I don't feel well. Will you please _____ me to the doctor's clinic?
    8. Let's _____ Richard out to lunch on his birthday next week.
    9. I always _____ my children to school before I go to work every morning.
    10. Please _____ me some A4 paper from the stationery department and ____ it back here.

    If you want to learn more about other common problems in business writing, please click here and don't forget to try the quiz too.

    Read more about common errors »

    Last but not least ...
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    It was great to make so many new friends at the Asia Business Forum Secretaries' Conference in Singapore in May. Here I am with the girls from ABF and my good friend and fellow-trainer, Ricky Lien.

    Ricky is a professional speaker on change, customer satisfaction, communication skills and sales training. To learn more about Ricky please visit http://www.mindsetmedia.com.au.

    I hope you've enjoyed this issue of Shirley Says. If you have any ideas about what you would like me to include in future issues, please write to me at news@shirleytaylor.com.

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    Copyright Shirley Taylor 2004. Shirley Taylor is author of several popular books on effective communication and business writing. She lives in Singapore and works as an international trainer, seminar leader, professional writer and conference speaker.

    Supermen and Supergirls unite!
    Thanks to all these Prudential staff for keeping me on my toes in May at the first of our 5 in-house workshops with Prudential. Here I am with the girls doing an impersonation of me in my *favourite pose* and the guys impersonating Superman. If you have been to my workshop, you will understand the joke there! If not, then isn't it time you signed up?!

    I work with 3 different partners in Singapore who organise my public workshops - JobsDB, Learner's Choice and Partners Conference & Event Management. All my public workshops are listed here. To discuss in-house training, please give me a call or drop me a note to shirley@shirleytaylor.com.

    SHIRLEY'S 2004 SCHEDULE
    OF PUBLIC WORKSHOPS AND CONFERENCES

    I hope to see you at one of the following public workshops or conferences soon!

    POWER UP YOUR
    BUSINESS WRITING SKILLS
    Singapore

    20-21 May and 16-17 September
    organised by JobsDB Singapore
    For details please e-mail
    serenelam@jobsdb.com.sg
    or call 6861 1000.

    24-25 June,
    30-31 August, 14-15 October
    and 7-8 December

    organised by
    Partners Conference & Event Management
    For details please e-mail
    enquiries@partners-conference.com
    or call 6786 7363.

    POWER UP YOUR
    BUSINESS WRITING SKILLS
    Kuala Lumpur
    29-30 November

    organised by
    Partners Conference & Event Management
    For details please e-mail
    enquiries@partners-conference.com
    or call 6786 7363.

    SUCCESS SKILLS FOR
    SECRETARIES AND PAs
    Singapore
    18 June, 6 August, 8 October
    and 26 November

    organised by
    Learner's Choice International
    For details please e-mail
    sam@learners-choice.com
    or call 6266 3180.

    THE 1st SHANGHAI SECRETARIES
    CONFERENCE 2004

    Shanghai, 7-8 June

    organised by
    Quest Learning and CIIC Shanghai
    For details please e-mail
    joelu@ciicsh.com
    or call (8621) 54594545 x 624.

    E-WRITING: Enhance your E-mail Skills
    Singapore
    3 September

    organised by
    Learner's Choice International
    For details please e-mail
    sam@learners-choice.com
    or call 6266 3180.

    Check out my full Schedule of Public Workshops and Conferences

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